Lust isn't just a guy problem – it's a human problem. And unless we honestly confront it, lust will destroy our relationships and our lives. Joshua Harris, author of the runaway bestseller I Kissed Dating Goodbye, calls a generation bombarded with images of sexual sin back to the freedom and joy of holiness. This "PG-rated" book – straightforward without being graphic – speaks to those entrenched in lust or just flirting with temptation. Honestly sharing his own struggles, Harris exposes lust's tactics and helps readers create a personal plan for fighting back. Men and women will find hope in God's grace and learn the secrets to lasting change.
Neither sex nor sexuality is our enemy. We need to rescue our sexuality from lust so we can experience it as God intended.
Bestselling author Joshua Harris shows you how lust deceives you. Specific and honest without being graphic, this book–for both men and women–will guide you in creating a custom plan for fighting lust and celebrating purity.
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“For your joy and Christ’s honor, I commend this book to you. It is realistic, practical, and hope-giving.”
John Piper, pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church , Minneapolis
“A beautiful blend of grace and truth. Joshua Harris raises high standards of holiness while carefully avoiding legalism. I highly recommend it.”
Randy Alcorn , bestselling author of The Treasure Principle and The Purity Principle
“I am very encouraged that my longtime friend Josh Harris has written a book about lust. May God use this book to keep many from allowing their minds to become ‘the devil’s playground.’”
Rebecca St. James, singer/songwriter
Story Behind the Book
“I was preparing a message on lust when I realized that the book I wanted to consult hadn’t been written. That book would make it clear that only Jesus Christ can free us from the hopeless treadmill of shame and guilt that so many well-intentioned people end up on. It would instill a love for holiness and a hatred for sin without dragging the reader’s imagination through the gutter. And it would be for both men and women, because I’ve learned that lust isn’t just a guy problem–it’s a human problem.”
– Joshua Harris |
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 Lust isn't a a problem for me |
| Review Date: July 5, 2010 |
| Reviewer: Rayscann, |
My problem is finding ladies with an interesting predicament. You see, I've discovered that I can't get off unless I see my woman vomit. I know it seems weird. Maybe a little distasteful. But it feels good to say that finally after many years of shame. Yes, I love vomit! I'm a vomit-lover! A vomit fan(atic), if you will. And I'm not ashamed of it. I just love the smell of old food being expelled with a chaser of stomach fluid and saliva. Again, I know it seems a little strange. But it's a natural body substance ... organic even. If God made our bodies ... and vomit does come from the body ... then it must be good ... even Godly. Vomit is a true sacrament.
I think it started when I was in my younger and more vulnerable years. There was a moment in my Senior year, when I was drinking a lot and hitting on a classmate of mine who I heard was easy. She wasn't real attractive or even that slender, but one day when I was in class, I saw her bare calf muscle when she was wearing Capri pants. And I don't know ... but her bare calf muscle was really turning me on. So I asked her out and soon we were slamming beers and talking smack about our lame-o teachers. After two hours, we were both pretty wasted and we were making out. And the combination of being turned on by her and being sick to my stomach from the cheap beer started to coalesce and then ... at the point of being worked up to the moment of crisis ... I had two expulsions. Since I was a total mess, she was completely repulsed and told everyone about my double faux pas ... but I didn't care. I found myself that night.
When I got to college, I started hanging around sororities and learned to hit on the bulimic women. I acted all sensitive, understanding where they were coming from, but never condemning them for wanting to be thin. I would take them out for huge fatty dinners, mostly Italian and Mexican dinners. The "Tour of Italy" form Olive Garden was especially popular. I would then accompany them to the bathroom and helped them hurl. I showed my "sensitivity" by looking soulfully into their eyes after an event and saying "I love your courage!" and then making out with them. The taste of regurgitated fettucine and lasagna in a weepy sorority sister's mouth is sweeter than any nectar you've ever tasted.
After college, it was harder to pinpoint bulimic women. I tried a few 12-step groups, but since I was the only guy there, most were either suspicious or just assumed I was not straight. I got a job in pregnancy counseling centers run by the religious right, which is where I am today. Since these centers are basically set up to guilt trip the women into having their babies, I figured I could work the angle of being a sensitive and understanding guy for "women in trouble." I mainly hit on the ones who are only 2-3 months along ... the ones who have morning sickness on a regular basis. When the women get past the stage of regular morning sickness, I fake them out with the "I think I like guys" speech and leave them grateful they didn't hook up with the likes of me. So, you see it's a happy ending for everyone. They don't end up with Liberace and I get a little something something too.
So, in other words, I don't need this book. |
not bad, could be better
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| Review Date: March 27, 2010 |
| Reviewer: jaigner, Texas |
Disclaimer: I was a participant in the homeschooling community when this author's first books hit the market. I remember all those around me who "Kissed Dating Goodbye" even though they weren't dating anyone, anyway. I also remember when "Boy Meets Girl" came out and everyone was horrified that Josh married a non-virgin. The horror.
Anyways, my opinions of this guy will always be jaded with these unpleasant memories of forgettable works.
This book is a little better. He has some good things to say. I'm glad that a Christian can finally say the word "masturbation" without flinching. I'm glad that he identifies lust as being a universal temptation, not a distinctively male problem.
But I disagree with him on many things. I think Christian men can watch TV or go lingerie shopping and be totally free from lust. The answer is not with eliminating every single possible situation in which you could be tempted to lust. The answer is in freeing yourself from guilt by forgiving yourself as you've been forgiven, allowing the sanctifying work of the Spirit to be done.
This book isn't bad, but there are others that are much better and integrated. |
Amazing book. Everything he says is true.
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| Review Date: March 20, 2010 |
| Reviewer: Christopher W. Morris, |
| Everything Josh writes is true and convicting. His practical advice and theological reasons for things are great and Biblical. I highly recommend this book for those struggling with sexual sin or those wanting to know more about sexual temptation in general. |
Fantastic book
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| Review Date: January 11, 2010 |
| Reviewer: Danielle L. Carr, |
| This book finally gave me the correct biblical perspective and answers to questions I have been seeking for years. Joshua Harris wrote this book very well. Whenever I am conversing with others and topics about lust, sex, purity, relationships, or addictions come up, I often suggest and recommend this book. Paired with the study guides for men & women it works well for groups or one-on-one accountablility partners to work through together. If you are looking for answers to questions about doubts or concerns you have regarding whether or not God cares about how we treat our bodies, with what we fill our minds, and how we relate with others you need to read this book. If you have been struggling with purity, lust, greed, or addictions this book can help you grow closer to God and will strengthen your relationship with Him if you are willing. The book follows biblical truth, is not judgemental (though I won't say you may not feel convicted of sin), and portrays what the Lord desires and how to achieve closeness with him and healthier relationships with others. I highly recommend this book for men and women, and young adults/mature teenagers. |
Fair thesis; but weakly presented, and poorly written. If it had ANY depth at all, it would get a better rating.
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| Review Date: October 25, 2009 |
| Reviewer: MN_Phil, MN, USA |
This is another book by author Josh Harris who is known for his books about dating, courtship, and marriage. In this book Mr. Harris articulates his thoughts about lust and the types of problems he would argue that it creates in our lives.
It is a very "Evangelical Christian" book, complete with what most people outside of the church would consider 'hyperspiritualized Jesus language'. Thus, while it is a book that is relevant for many people, it isn't particularly insightful: It would be a struggle for anybody to read if they didn't grow up around the church and its jargon.
Mr. Harris unfortunately limited his audience by this, and was even a slight turn-off to me. It makes his advice for people less tangible. He adamantly opposes 'legalistic' attempts to deal with lust, and thus avoids giving a set of concrete steps that you can use to overcome; ironic for a book that is about lust but typical of a christian to just tell you to submit your thoughts to Jesus and over time he will help you deal with everything. Harris is right that lust is a problem, and our culture is obsessed with it, so his thesis is good. But the book is ultimately disappointing.
Flaw is his Method: If I Surrender to Jesus, Pray, Read your Bible, be spiritual, go to church ... sure that might be one answer... but we can take the structure of this argument and write a book on virtually any topic using this exact same formula. The insights in this book are neither insightful or profound; rather, they are just overtly evangelical and prone to a very provincial view of our theology. If it had any depth at all, it would get more stars. |
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